When was the very last moment you asked for help? What were the circumstances? Was it difficult to ask? For most of us, brought up in our individualistic American society, it is challenging to ask for help in any circumstance. When it comes to chemical dependency and recovery, the challenge is ten-fold.
Never Be Afraid to Ask for Help
What’s the most significant thing holding us back? Fear. This emotional beast hinders us in our tracks too many times. It assaults us from numerous angles, immobilizing us on the spot. When we’re struggling with substance abuse, it prevents us from accepting we’re addicted, and hinders us from reaching out for support. Here at Northlake Recovery, we believe that facing even the most intense version of our own fears, is just another step towards getting rid of your addiction once and for all.
Time to Face Our Fears
What exactly are we scared of? When we wrestle with asking for help, it’s typically because we struggle with the following concerns:
- Fear of Being rejected: What if we ask for help, and they say no? The idea of summoning up the guts to inquire and then be turned down overwhelms us. We never want to make ourselves that defenseless. Or what if we ask for help, and it’s just not accessible? Regardless of the many resources we’ve been told exist, we persuade ourselves they aren’t for us– that we’ll be turned away. We just don’t want to risk rejection.
- Fear of Judgment: How will other people see us if we confess we’re struggling with substance abuse and want help to get sober? Will we be classified an addict? Will we be rejected? We fear this stigma will ruin our possibilities of a good life, a decent job, and good relationships in the future.
Fear of Imperfection: At some degree, we all know we’re not perfect. But we seldom want to admit that to others. Asking for help means having to admit we don’t have it all together. It puts our flaw on a platter for all to see. Confessing we need others is incredibly humbling, and we often don’t have that degree of humility.
- Fear of Failing: What if we ask for help, but it doesn’t work? What if we put ourselves out there, enable others to come beside us, do the work, then break down? We fear encountering ourselves and people we asked to help us. We fear allowing ourselves and others down. The issue with this line of reasoning is that it disregards the definition of failure: lack of excellence. If we don’t get the help we need to have prosperity, we’ve already failed.
- Fear of Defeat: We are frightened of what may happen if other people find out the reality of our addiction. Will we forfeit our job? Eliminate our friendships? Family members? We worry putting too much stress on our relationships by both admitting our issue and asking our loved ones or employer for help. Wrapped up in our fear of loss, we disregard one important truth: We’re more likely to lose these connections if we don’t get help.
If you or a loved one is having a tough time facing the reality of addiction, call Northlake Recovery anytime. Specialists are standing by to help. Call (561)-770-6616 toll free today.